In his letter to Philemon, Paul says, “…Though I am bold enough in Christ to command you to do what is required, yet for love’s sake I prefer to appeal to you…†(vv. 8,9).
This admission by the apostle Paul is amazing! It gives us an insight into a style of leadership that separates it from many other styles. Usually bosses and managers will use any method necessary to get people to do what is required. The church is different. Ministers, teachers, pastors, elders, deacons, ministry leaders, etc.: We all can take a lesson from brother Paul.
Think of the power of love as an appeal. Individuals and groups respond more positively to appeals coming from a heart of love. Several times in Paul’s letters, and other New Testament writers, the notion of “boldness†is held forth as a Christian virtue. We are to be bold when we approach the throne of grace, etc. However, in this case it is different.
Boldness too often is understood as brashness, crassness, manipulation, coercion, etc. Christian leadership understands the human heart. It is sensitive, sinful, broken, wounded, and hurting. No human heart is exempt. Only the blood of Jesus can heal the human heart, but that healing is often incarnational through the human touch of Christian leaders.